I met this super cute guy and I think we have connected on a level where there might be something special there. We’ve been dating a month. The thing is, he is a professional sailor and travels a lot. How can I navigate this long distance relationship or should I call it quits and just save us both the pain of dealing with it all?
I am looking forward to your answer because I need H E L P in figuring this out!
Let me ask you this: Do you like the sailor? Do you get excited to hear from him and see him? If yes, you’re on the right track! Now, do you feel that an equal amount of interest and effort is coming from him? For example, does he use his travel as an excuse not to be in touch or is it an obstacle that he tries genuinely to overcome? If it’s the latter, then I say go for it. As long as there’s a strong sense of “we’re in this together” then the distance thing can be conquered. If it feels like all work and no romance then don’t do it. If, however, the joy of being together overrides the periods of absence and the labor of communication, then you’ve got a good thing. “There might be something special there” is always worth exploring.
For more ideas on how to make this work, I recommend The Long-Distance Relationship Survival Guide by Chris Bell and Kate Brauer-Bell.
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* The ideas and advice presented here are not a substitute for professional advice. Talk to your psychologist, counselor, physician or health care professional for situations that warrant further analysis.